“What is the secret of your serenity?” asked the student, “Whole-hearted cooperation with the inevitable.” said the Master - Anthony DeMello.
We all come across situations in life that push us to the edge and challenge us to face ourselves. They bring up discomfort, pain and emotional turmoil, however they also provide valuable seeds for personal and spiritual growth.
In the traditional sense, the word surrender feels very negative. We associate surrender with weakness and defeat. In a spiritual context however the concept of surrender can empower us to transform and let go of that which does not serve us.
Surrender involves the release of selfish attachments and expectations generated by the ego. When we become fixated on a certain end result we stop allowing life to unfold in its natural way. We stop “going with the flow”. Our body responds to this resistance by creating tension and pain.
Part of “waking up” and becoming more consciously aware involves noticing when we are developing attachments so that we can release them and carry on being in the moment without expectation. Dropping our personal agenda and accepting a situation as it is without judgement liberates us, giving the situation a chance to evolve and new opportunities to arise. We have flexibility of mind to see which path life takes and the openness to embrace it.
Coming up against obstacles is an inevitable part of life. Moving into surrender is acknowledging that there is a greater life force energy existing outside of us that has its own intelligence beyond our comprehension. Since each of us is a small part of this energetic field it becomes obvious that working against the greater current is unproductive. The experience of pain itself is life reminding us that we are too focused on the external world. When we ground ourselves in conscious awareness we realise that there is nothing that we actually “need” to occur, as we are whole right now in this very moment.